You might be reading this blog because you have experienced the death of a loved one or friend. Perhaps you know of someone experiencing bereavement and is looking for answers. Though there are accepted stages of grief, everyone faces and copes with grief in their own way.
Anything you can share at the bottom of this post regarding your experience with grief will be greatly appreciated. Many people are still searching for answers. Please feel free to post a question or comment on this pertaining to living life following the death of a loved one.
Grief is exhausting. Your body will ache. The physical pain when dealing with grief is VERY real.
Normally, people will console you….for three weeks; afterward, they will think it’s time for you to move on. Little do they know, grief is not like getting over the flu. They are afraid to mention your loved one’s name because they don’t want to remind you of your loved one…..as if you aren’t already thinking of the one you lost nonstop. People will offer advice, such as I know how you feel, My niece died or My dog died. Be assured it is not the same.
Joining a support group can be very beneficial. For bereaved parents, The Compassionate Friends (TCF) is a support group that meets once a month in towns throughout the world. You will learn there is NO TIMELINE for grief. We all grieve at our own pace.
There are bereavement groups for people, grieving the loss of anyone, be it spouse, sibling, friend, even a pet. Hearing from people, who’ve walked in your shoes, is very comforting. One thing I’ve learned is time does NOT heal all; however, time does take you further from the moment.
The BEST thing a friend can do is say, I’m sorry and give you a hug. They will say, Call me if you need me. Heck, you don’t know what you need. You’ve never experienced this.
One needs to know this, if he/she can work the stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression & Acceptance; he/she can feel & laugh again. This is not to say the will completely get over it. That is NOT an option; however, they can live a normal life. It will just be a new normal life.